Damien "Joey" Joseph Kam

Damien "Joey" Joseph Kam
February 11, 1965 - August 28, 2009

Honoring the great Memories...

Damien's Memorial Plaque was installed January 16, 2010. It is located in the Garden of Reflection Memorial Book. Inquire at the mortuary office if you are not sure of the location, and they will give you directions.

Pacific View Memorial Park
3500 Pacific View Drive,
Corona Del Mar, Ca 92625


One day we'll disappear together in a dream

However short or long our lives are going to be

I will live in you or you will live in me

Until we disappear together in a dream


Damien's Memorial Plaque

Damien's Memorial Plaque


If you would like to contribute to Colin's College Fund in Damien's Memory:

Send a check to:

College Savings Iowa

P.O. Box 55119

Boston, MA 02205-5119

Reference #450079529-01 on the check

Or if you use Online Bill Pay you can issue a check as referenced above.

For more information regarding this type of account please visit: https://collegesavingsiowa.s.upromise.com/

A special thanks to Judy, Cyndie's Cousin, for putting together Colin's college fund.

Friday, May 21, 2010

a nice surprise ...

I came home this afternoon to a nice surprise ... on my doorstep was an amazing floral arrangement, signed "from your Pimco family" :) Thanks guys, for always thinking about us. I know this would make Damien happy.

Monday, May 10, 2010

New Life ...

Down the middle drops one more grain of sand
They say that new life makes losing life easier to understand
- Jack Johnson

Today my friends Densie & Alex welcomed a new baby boy into their lives ... Archer arrived @ 6:45am, 7 lbs 19 ins. They had a little scare as the cord was wrapped around baby's neck while delivering, but all is well now. Mama & baby are resting and doing just fine. I had the opportunity to visit them at the hospital this afternoon and hold Archer. He is absolutely adorable! I forgot just how small they really are :o) Andrew & Avrum are happy big brothers.

New life is so very precious. I had a little bit of peace and happiness in my soul today. And I was able to stand in the very hospital where I had to say goodbye to Damien, to say hello to baby Archer and welcome him to this world.

Congrats Mama D - job well done ;o) All our love, C & c

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Monday ...

Today was slightly better than yesterday, maybe because I spent a little more time out of the house. I took Colin to music class this morning, then met up with Denise & Avee for a post-nap walk to the park and around the neighborhood.

But I'm still dealing with the flood of recent memories of the three of us. Our perfect little family. This time last year, Damien had just started to get sick, but everything still looked promising. We had no idea ...

Now, the memories just keep filling my head ... they are great memories, just very difficult to deal with at this point.

Monday, May 3, 2010

a rough day

It's been a rough day, or actually, a rough week. I'm not exactly sure why. It sometimes feels like just when things get a little better, they get worse. Two steps forward, one step back.

I just felt like I was in a total fog today, I couldn't concentrate on getting anything useful done. I felt so tired and out of it. I was having a lot of memories today too. I took Colin for a walk this evening and saw lots of couple with strollers ... it just reminded me of how Damien used to love to go walking with us when he got home from work. Then I saw a man and his very pregnant wife walking, and that too reminded me of us, just a few short years ago. We walked around the neighborhood almost every day, with little peanut in Mama's belly. Then I started thinking about the morning we went to the hospital to have Colin, bringing him home, etc ... you can see where this is going. I'm not sure what triggered it.

I found out this past week that a good friend of mine suffered a massive heart attack a few weeks ago. She is very sick and in the hospital, and will need a heart transplant. She is only 38 years old. I'm sure that got my mind going to some degree. My Aunt Cookie (Dad's sister) passed away from breast cancer on April 10th. Although this was expected and she was under hospice care at home, it was still difficult to deal with. I have been thinking about my Uncle Jimmy and their five girls and how hard this all must be for them. Damien's Auntie Jane (his mom's sister) passed away unexpectedly January 10th. Another tragedy for the family. Just seems like sad things everywhere lately.

But tomorrow is another day ... another chance to start over. So I think I'll go to bed and try to dream of a better tomorrow. Another day to spend with my amazing little man, who can bring a smile to my face of the bleakest of days.